sooo, many things have changed since my last writing. this is good though. hear me out :)
the day before we were to go to the attorney to start the process of john adopting lillian and sebastian, the kids' dad, we'll call him joe (cuz thats his name! haha), called. he wanted me to come to his work and talk to him at break. let me tell you its been a while since i have had a sit down one on one conversation in a car alone with my ex husband lol. nothing was sugar coated. he decided to take his parents up on their offering of him moving in with them. they are having a zero tolerance policy with him. no lies, no drinking or no home. he had decided to do this in the best interest of himself and the kids. it was very difficult with yet again another whirlwind of emotions. i had heard this story before. but knowing just how close he was to losing something forever i thought i would give him a chance. he wanted to just pick the kids up the next day like nothing happened (it had been a month since they heard from or seen him). john and i thought that wasnt a great idea so 2 days later i picked joe up and him and i waited for the kids to walk to my house. it was a strange few minutes. the kids didnt run up to him and embrace him like i thought maybe they would. they walked up. they kind of looked around, at the ground, at me. glanced at him. was very odd. then we all kid of made small talk. both kids read books to him on the fornt lawn. then he had a little heart to heart. he told them none of this was their fault and that some major changes would take place. no more promises to be broken, no more lies. we then took him to work. wondering what tomorrow would bring.
tomorrow brought good stuff. the next day and the next day too. since april 8th he has picked the kids up at school for the hour to hour and half he has between thm getting out of school and him going to work. he did his entire weekend two weeks ago and even a few hours of mine while i was in florida. this weekend he got them from school friday and he still has them sunday night and will take them to school in the morning. the 3 of them rode bikes down to our house today to check in and say hey. tonight i had to bring some school clothes to them. warmed my heart to walk in to a quiet game of candy land between the 3 of them at the table.
we are all rooting for this to continue. this is the best scenario for everyone. joe behaving, staying out of and away from trouble. the kids not having to wonder why their dad decided to not be a part of their lives. i worried about john's feelings. he says not to. while their last name wont change now, neither will the fact that they are two lucky kids to have TWO dads who love them
